How many of you men, because of this movement, or not because of this movement but because of other reasons, are struggling in your relationship/marriage with your wife ? 

Please read the following : 

Our marriage to our wives is one of the Greatest Gifts God could ever have given us.  And in order to praise God for this Grand Gift of Marriage you should reflect the way Jesus loves you and the church upon your wife. 

Ephesians 5:25-30 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but NOURISHES and CHERISHES it, just as Christ also does the church,

because we are members of His body.

Whether your wife has ever told you this or not, she will 100% agree with the following things: 

The basic needs of any woman in a marriage need to be met, and these things were built into her By God so that when you love her the way she deserves to be loved your relationship with her will not only reflect Jesus and God but will prosper in itself beyond imagination. 

1. Security

-Spiritually: by being strong in your faith and reflecting Jesus you should then act as the lighthouse for your wife the same. When you run into stress or hard times it is up to you to provide the spiritual support to your wife so that she may feel safe and secure walking beside you through the valleys of the shadows of evil/unknown/uncontrollable/death 

-Emotionally: never raise your voice or curse at your wife. Fear needs to never be an emotion your wife feels of you. It doesn’t mean that you should always agree or never argue, but your disagreements need to be self controlled so as to never promote fear of you by your wife.  Speak calmly. Listen to her as well. Give credit to them because their intuition is almost always on point even if our minds think we know better. 

-Physically: you should obviously never lay a harmful hand on your wife rather only lay hands of love and security on her. Hug and kiss your wife. When you touch her it should reflect the way Jesus would touch any of us – compassion, mercy, kindness, understanding, and full of love. 

-Financially: you don’t have to be rich and she shouldn’t expect you to be , but you better be willing to do whatever it takes to make sure that her financial security is never in question.  Pay your bills. Have a job. Use your skills to procure a way to pay for her needs in life. If she’s in control of money that’s fine but you better make sure she has that money and never doesn’t have it. 

2. Emotional Intimacy: when you first met you were infatuated with her every detail. You should be interesting as a person but you should be Interested In Her as if she’s the most interesting thing on Earth – and she is too. She is a daughter of God and obviously she is interesting enough that she loves you!! Listen to her and be inquisitive about who she is and what she feels and thinks in everything. You should know more about her than you know about yourself and make that your mission in life. You’d be surprised how far just doing that goes to show her the kind of love she deserves.  

3. Significance: God made marriage to be the most significant thing in your life. Greater than your children. Greater than your possessions. Greater than your career. Greater than your ego/pride. Your marriage to your wife is THE MOST SIGNIFICANT thing in your life – right next to (paper thin distance) your relationship with Jesus. You should love her as you love Jesus and she should KNOW IT. Tell her. 

>Show her In all things you do.  

>Show her by giving her all of your love

>Show her by striving to give her the happiness you know she wants and deserves because you know her.

>Show her by being the Peace in the middle of a Storm 

>Show her by being the goodness when the world throws evil and wickedness at her 

>Show her by being faithful to her and honoring her in everything you do. Even when she’s not looking. She’s your gift from God and don’t ever even THINK about not being faithful or honoring her in everything you do.  

>Show her by always being gentle in your words, your touch, your emotion and your actions with her. She’s your most prized possession and you should treat her as such. 

>Show her by always having self control over all these things. We as men have tempers, anger, testosterone, and Satan himself looking to end this beautiful covenant between you two. Through reflecting and worshiping Jesus you can maintain all of these things without detriment and give them to your wife as Love. 

If you were to be able to do these things for her, without a single ounce of expectation of something in return, there is NOTHING she wouldn’t be willing to do in kind. 

This is true and you know it is true. 

You know it’s true because we were BUIILT by God and created this way to be successful and happy here on Earth through one another.

–IET17 – TELEGRAM